In our search to fill the void within us, we seem to find fulfillment in relationships that we find ourselves valued in the most. The feeling that someone loves you very much can embrace our hearts unlike any other feeling. Most fulfilling relationships are those in which instead of condemning, you forgive and guide each other, in which you trust that you will be there for each other, no matter what, that you will go to any extent to preserve the beauty of your relationship. You do this because you have invested a lot of time, effort and emotions and you feel worthy of being in the relationship. A relationship based upon kindness, trust, love, patience, respect, care and concern seems to lift up your spirits and fill the void.
But, even such satisfying relationships have limits. We start to depend on the other for our happiness and peace. I don’t think there is anything wrong in wanting to experience as much love as possible, yet, sometimes, we unknowingly monopolize the other to the extent that they have to let go of a lot of things. Sometimes, they don’t let go. At such times, we start feeling hurt, the emptiness creeps in again, and there comes the feeling of unmet needs. I wish there were no limits and that you always felt this joy of being fulfilled, more consistently. But, most times, when the other is absent, you feel less loved. Sure, the other person is the means that you feel valued and loved, but is that the only means? Love is always there, whether someone is there or not. Love brings peace, not shackles. Then why the misery? Why the bottling up of emotions? Why the heartaches? Even the most satisfying relationship does not seem to satisfy us consistently. Why?